Should You Ever Lie? The Pros and Cons of Lying

Lying: Should You Ever Lie?

When Is it okay to lie?

Lying is not the noblest of practices. Most people view lying as a sign of cowardice and weakness. However, there are times when it can be beneficial. When stuck in a job interview, honesty might risk future employment. Another instance is if someone asks if they look fat in their new outfit. Lying might be an option because of wanting to avoid hurting their feelings.

There are cases where lying might be the best option, and In such a situation, Understanding the pros and cons of it before deciding what to do is crucial. Despite the fact that the vast majority of people would never admit to lying at any given time, surveys have shown that we lie once or twice per day. To protect someone else or ourselves from potential danger or hurt feelings.

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Young couple arguing about their problems at home.

The Pros of Lying

There are benefits to lying sometimes, and many people view it as an unfavorable practice which is a shame in some situations. Even though it has the potential to be harmful in the long run if it becomes a habit, there are numerous occasions in which it can be helpful.

One of the biggest reasons people lie is to spare someone else feelings. For example, imagine dating someone and deciding what restaurant to take them to for dinner; because of uncertainty and disappointment, there is a lie. There is a chance they will be disappointed if taken to a place they do not want.

To avoid that situation, they lie and insist on hearing great things about a specific restaurant they have always wanted to try. The problem with dealing with a person’s feelings is that they are difficult to read. Even if dating someone for years, it is impossible to know what they feel at any given time. 

One person might consider a meal at a chain restaurant a big deal, while another might be disappointed if they eat there too often. With such issues in mind, lying can be the best option.

The Cons of Lying

Before moving on to the cons of lying, it is essential to note that we are not advocating lying, and it is necessary to avoid lying whenever possible. It has a few drawbacks. It is almost impossible to tell a convincing lie except for being a skilled actor (and even then, it is tricky). Those around us will likely notice our deceit.If found out to be lying, reputation and trust will be damaged. Be honest. Then, when asked where to go for dinner, some people lie about their craving for their favorite restaurant.

Lying: Should You Ever Lie?Lying can make people question your credibility.

because lying is typically associated with dishonesty. You run the risk of having your credibility called into question.if you consistently gain attention for it.It’s not advisable, especially if one wants to succeed in business or politics.

During a job interview, the hiring manager would probably inquire as to previous employment terminations. Better be honest; tell him what happened. If there was a lie at the interview, and he finds out, he may consider and question future decisions or discussions.

Bottom Line

If ever in a situation when not sure of telling a lie. try to think of it this way, Would a good friend do this or lie? If the answer is yes, then it is likely that all will be well. Falsehood is a slippery slope that can lead to disastrous results. If lying is a hobby, consider making some life changes and reevaluating priorities.

Lying is a sign of cowardice but can also be incredibly beneficial in certain situations. It would help to avoid dishonesty and lies in personal and professional life. There are times when it is the best solution. Always be aware of the cons of a lie and try to avoid it whenever possible.

 

To Feel Loved By Family On Christmas Day

It’s Great To Feel Loved By Your Family On Christmas Day

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Love they say supersedes everything and as we all know love is a great tool for human consumption especially at Christmas, Love as we know brings family together, settles quarrels, disputes among acquaintances and the joy of Christmas makes you feel loved, especially when you have a get together with your family and friends. On a special day like Christmas, love brings everybody together either you meet at a family gathering or you all go out to eat, either way is fulfilling.  They say when things fall apart the center can no-longer hold, everybody comes together because of the love they have together.  when there is love among family members, especially at Christmas the center will always be intact and you will feel loved and happy and you will be hoping that the  family be together again which is always a thing of joy and gladness of heart.

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That song happy holidays is a very great song which puts us all in the season mood and makes us all eager to see friends, family and acquaintances.  Christmas always leads to giving gifts, Christmas cards and sometimes going out to eat with family which is part of the love that comes with these wonderful season and most importantly for the kids who are always eager to see father Christmas because of gift and for the joy that they are with a family member which indicates love from parents to kids, love from members of the family to each other and love  from the community to the society which makes the world a joyous and wonderful place to leave and appreciate the year that went by and waiting for the new year to come.

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Family gathering, community gathering is always exciting especially at Christmas. We always have the pleasure of happiness when we feel loved by friends and especially by members of the family which makes our hearts and mind filled with joy and happiness especially in the Christmas season. All the attention you get that day makes you fill loved and happy.  As we all know celebrating Christmas is a thing of joy for us all and most importantly is that we celebrate with  joy and happiness that comes with it, that tells us that we should never reject the gathering of friends and family especially at a special period as Christmas. The thought and the joy of getting together most times will make you happy and filled with joy seeing your family members at Christmas.

 

Real-Life Tests and Challenges: Overcoming Obstacles and Finding Purpose in Life

Embracing Life’s Challenges: How Real-Life Tests Shape Growth, Purpose, and Success

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real life test

Life always has its own challenges and tests. Real-life testing occurs not when all is going well but when we have challenges and great life experiences. Life, as we all know, sometimes has its ups and downs. It includes different events and issues arising, and that is where our life experience comes in. Life experience is sometimes considered a Life Test. As human beings, we always want to make the world a better place.

We always have a purpose in life, and committing to that purpose is a necessity, and it is the beginning or foundation of every good thing that comes our way in life. Whatever we are doing, we need to do it right because time waits for nobody, and life waits for no one. We must keep moving and doing what we love doing best. 

There is a quotation that I love by an unknown author, which says, “Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. Appreciate those who treat you well, disregard those who do not, and consider that everything occurs for a reason. When opportunities arise, take them. If they alter your life, accept it.

No one said it would be easy, just that it would be worth it. Author Unknown Facing your goals and purpose early makes life easier and more understandable, leading to achievements and wonderful things. As we all know, life challenges include finance, relationships, work, and more, but they all revolve around achievement of life, and the more achievements we have of our dreams and goals, the better for us.

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The past always holds us down, and due to this, we always fear to make a leap of fate or try other things, but many a time, this becomes a great hindrance to us and our progress. As the saying goes, “nothing ventured nothing gained”, our experience of life is a great instrument or tool that will help us in getting to our destination. If used properly and diligently, no matter what the situation, making that leap of fate is our key to stardom, progress, miracle, and greatness.

 For us to achieve our goals as bloggers, writers, engineers, lawyers, or whatever you are. The process of goal setting is the answer to most of our needs. It helps to focus on what we want or need to do and not what others assume we should do, and this will surely help in your life accomplishments.

 It is always a good thing to instigate change and transformation and, if possible, be the one to shine the light for others to follow. As we all know, life is full of opportunities. Getting hold of the best opportunities is the greatest fulfillment of life.

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Real-life testing: 

Often, there are Important opportunities found in everyday events. Our abilities and attitude to life are factors that could bring about our success in life. The challenges and life experiences could be stressful and, at the same time, challenging and boring. That does not mean we should give up because there is always joy in the morning. Try being consistent and persevere no matter how tough and difficult. “Are you bored with life? Dedicate yourself fully to work you believe in, and you will find happiness. Dale Carnegie

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Making relationships work

How do we make relationships work?, hmmm! it takes the grace of God and a lot of good notion including patience understand and perseverance and most relationship have stress and crisis, so making sacrifice for that relationship will go a along way, but it is always worth the while if properly applied, there are so many information, prompts and advice out there and sometimes they could be reliable and sometimes it is not worth accepting because they look like junk automatically means it is not a good advice and it is not worth reading because they are most times contradicting and confusing. The unfortunate thing is that most information given is one-sided and   does not apply to everybody because of the fact that different problems needs different solutions and i am being brief about what advice I can give about making a relationship work. There are some elements of truth about stability in a good relationship.  Some factors that make relationships work are:
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It

 

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built on trust

  • Trust: A good, healthy and loving relationship relies on trust and faith in whomever you are dealing with which includes marriages and others, for without trust, chaos, confusion and pestilence will arise in that relationship and from a layman’s point of view, a relationship without trust is like telephone without service, which is almost like a relationship without a good foundation.  lack of trust can lead to you checking on him all the time believing in what you imagine which could be baseless. lets say he is away on a conference, you are there worried about what he or she is doing and who they are with and all kinds of thought will be flowing through your mind.  Unnecessary insecurities due to lack of trust will lead to constant quarrel and commotions at home which if looked critically could end up driving both of you apart instead of getting close. I get it, there has been a bad experience about a past relationship. but we need to forget about our past and move on or else you will have trust issue in your relationship which you need to avoid.
    The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships
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  • communication : Do you communicate with your partner at all? some people have problem expressing their feelings and what they think with their friend and partner, but why? of what value is that relationship when there is no room for proper communication. Lack of communication with your partner is a big problem. It is in your best interest to tell him your opinion, then you can both solve whatever problem you may have and it will create room for understanding which is always the case with communicating to each other and not keeping quiet. improper communication might lead to survival problems in that relationship. There are some factors that needs consideration when communicating and these includes respect and talking calmly and reasonably to each other and this could be a better solution to all problems which will call for understand and therefore solution.
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Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last

  • Love: There is that saying which says “love conquers them all”.  It is the major reason which brings two people together anyways and sometimes some people decide to get together and live together even if they don’t love each other and its an incredible situation and with time they may fall in love with each other and this love situation will help in solving most problems, no matter how tough and if both parties fall apart that same love that brought them together the first time will always bring them back.  For peace, understanding and love to reign in any relationship you must learn to:
  1. Understand your partner at all cost
  2. Give love honor and respect to each other
  3. Try creating moment for connection and communication
  4. Learn to share things in common
  5. Cope with situations and problems wisely and strategically no matter how tough
  6. Learn to dialogue as much as you can

 

 

 

 

We Have A Dream

The Dream And Aspiration Of Life

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Dreams are a natural process which comes to us as a result of our imaginations, aspirations, desires of what we want to become now or in the future.  As a result of this desire for life achievement we work hard to get to our goals. From our childhood, some of us have the dream of being lawyers, doctors, engineers, pilots and whatever our hearts desires are. There are times that despite what our dreams were, some of us could not get to that goal and may decide to divert to something else, and thereby killing that childhood dream which if properly assessed would have been the best achievement of our lives.  The unfortunate thing is that some of us get to that goal with a lot of effort and struggle and sometimes we abandon that dream for something else due to life experiences, discouragement from those who should put us through and give us proper direction and encouragement.  Sometimes we abandon that dream due to circumstances beyond our control.

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Talking about dreams there are two kinds, there is the one of sleep and there is this other dream which is our aspiration of what we want to become in life.  Naturally we all want to become something important in life, just like somebody having aspiration of being a movie star, musician, doctor, astronaut, engineer  or any other important profession.  The truth is that everybody has dreams and aspirations for good and better days to come but sometimes due to lack of focus, determination and consistency for whatever our dreams are, we end up killing the dream.  Lack of endurance, determination and perseverance makes us drop that goal of what we want to become, but little do we know that life is not a bed of roses and nothing good comes easy, but it takes little effort, determination and focus is the best route to progress and achievement.

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The question is how do we fulfill this dream and get that Golden Fleece that we want for ourselves.  Getting discouraged is never a good option, because when you are about to give up could be the target point  and turn around for better life and better things to come, that is why giving up is never an option. Life is all about good and bad, bitterness and joy but our projection is towards joy. Honey is there for all, but being able to pass through the bees to that honey is our dream. Focus, determination, endurance and perseverance are the key to that goal and want and not giving up is the best option for result.  Despite our goals it is always a good thing for parents to encourage and support their kids to do their hearts desires or their childhood aspirations no matter what the situation or circumstances and not discourage them for their own selfish interest.

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