WHAT HAS BEEN THE SCARIEST LIFE EXPERIENCE FOR YOU THIS YEAR
ONE OF THE SCARIEST EXPERIENCE I’VE HAD WAS DRIVING ON MY WAY TO WORK AND HAD A SERIOUS ACCIDENT. IT WAS A QUIET AND BRIGHT NIGHT AND THE MOON WAS UP IN THE SKY AND I WAS DRIVING DOWN THE ROAD ON MY WAY TO WORK AND I CAME OFF THE RAMP TO THE COUNTRY ROAD AND I WAS HAVING FUN LISTENING TO MUSIC AND I GOT CLOSE TO MY WORK PLACE. EVERY WHERE WAS QUIET AS USUAL AND I WAS DRIVING DOWN THE ROAD AT A MODERATE SPEED, BUT UNFORTUNATELY FOR ME ONE OF THE TIRES WENT FLAT AND I STARTED STRUGGLING WITH THE WHEEL AND IT GOT TO A STAGE THAT I COULD NOT CONTROL IT ANYMORE AND BEFORE I KNEW IT, THE CAR WENT OFF THE ROAD AND WENT THROUGH SOME ROCK AND INTO THE BUSH AND HIT LITTLE SET OF TREES AND STARTED SMOKING. IT WAS REALLY A SCARY MOMENT FOR ME THIS YEAR, I HAVE NEVER HAD THAT KIND OF SCARY EVENT IN MY LIFE.
LIFE IS FULL OF CHALLENGES AND EXPERIENCES WHICH SOMETIMES MAKES SOME EVENTS SCARY DEPENDING ON THE INCIDENT. WE ALL HAVE DIFFERENT KINDS OF BAD AND SCARY MOMENTS IN OUR DIFFERENT LIVES AND DESPITE THE SCARY TIMES, WE BECOME STRONG AND CAUTIOUS OF EVENTS HAPPENING AROUND US IN THE FUTURE. THERE ARE DIFFERENT EVENTS THAT HAPPENS TO DIFFERENT PEOPLE AT DIFFERENT TIMES AND THIS CAN BE SCARY DEPENDING ON WHAT WE THINK IS SCARY. TALKING ABOUT LIFE EXPERIENCES IT CAN BE SCARY WHEN A CHILD FALLS SICK, WHEN THERE IS AN ACCIDENT, FATAL OR NOT, A GREAT FALL, BEING HIT BY ANOTHER WITHOUT EXPECTATION, LOOSING A LOVED ONE OR WHEN YOU HAVE A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP UNEXPECTEDLY, TO SOME, SCARY MOMENT CAN MEAN WATCHING A SCARY MOVIE OR HAVING A BAD AND TERRIBLE DREAM.
THE THOUGHTS OF THINKING ABOUT THE PAST AND STILL HOLDING UNTO IT AND REACTING WITH IT
Being humans that we are , we all do have history and experiences from the past right from when we were born till now, we all do have different phases to life and the circumstances that call for this are of different kinds but, one way or the other we do have our different life experiences and some are good and wonderful, some are mild and some are very bad, that its difficult to forget and some of us hold unto this past experiences and wallow in them and we allow it to affect the present life in which we live in, thereby holding grudges with the past. Experience as they say, is a good and probably the best teacher, it is a special cane which makes you learn and use the incident that brought about that experience as a tool for caution and a tool for bringing awareness to others, for them to know what life is all about and som people express this experiences in different ways through movies,music,comedy and other means of communications.
Life is full of challenges and sometimes its good to have them because they are lessons of life which carry us along, but some people hold unto this and refuse to let go and use it as a yardstick to vindicate other people who come across their part, especially someone who has been in a very bad relationship and having come out of it, most times have the thought that all are bad, just like some women will say men are bad because of what she went through in her last or previous relationships, forgetting that everybody is not and can never be the same, for the fact that you had bad experience with the previous person is not a criteria for same experience with your new acquaintance the reason being that our upbringing, orientation, background and ways we were individually brought up has never been and will never be the same which brings about changes in people and character differences.
Whatever life has presented in the past either good or bad should never be a yardstick for reaction towards the present negatively or towards whomever we come across in the future, for life has to continue. we should use our experiences as a lesson or means of caution for future occurrences. we should focus on the present and the future and hope for better life and not keep feeling bad about what happened months and years ago and letting it affect our new friends and acquaintances or whomever we are dealing with.
THE CHOICE OF BEING STRONG
HMMMMMM!, IT TAKES A WHILE TO GET TO THE CROSS ROAD AND IT TAKES A WHILE TO REALISE AND IT ALSO TAKES A WHILE TO BE STRONG BECAUSE THAT IS THE ONLY CHOICE YOU HAVE ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU ARE AT A CROSS ROAD OR IN A TIGHT CORNER WHERE CONFUSION SETS IN AND YOU DONT EVEN KNOW IF YOU HAVE TO GO FORWARD OR BACKWARD, BUT REMAIN THERE THINKING OF WHAT TO DO DUE TO LIFE PROBLEMS, BUT WITH THE SITUATION AS IT IS WE JUST HAVE TO BE STRONG.
TRANSPIRING OUR EVERYDAY LIVES WE ALL HAVE CHALLENGES WHICH LOOKS US STRAIGHT IN THE EYE, IT’S LIKE THE CASE OF A WOMAN WHO’S HUSBAND IS IN THE MILITARY AND IS BEING DEPLOYED, THE ORPHAN WHO MISSES HIS OR HER PARENTS, THE CHILDREN WHO HAVE TO STRUGGLE TO SURVIVE WHEN PARENTS SHOULD BE THERE FOR THEM, THE MAN WHO WENT TO SEE A DOCTOR AND HE IS TOLD THAT HE HAS A SHORT LIFE TO LIVE BECAUSE OF A MYSTERIOUS ILLNESS THAT TAKES UP RESIDENCE IN HIS SPINAL CORD, THE MAN THAT HAD HIGH HOPES FOR A PARTICULAR JOB AND GETS DISAPPOINTED, THE MAN LOOKING FOR ADMISSION AND COULDN’T GET IT, WHAT ABOUT THE CONTRACT YOU HAD HIGH HOPES FOR AND IT COMES TO SHAMBLES?, THE MONEY YOU WERE EXPECTING FROM THE BANK TO EXECUTE YOUR PROJECT AND DISAPPOINTMENT SETS IN. ALL THIS PEOPLE ARE ON A CROSS ROAD OF CONFUSION AND THEY HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO BE STRONG IRRESPECTIVE OF WHAT THE SITUATION IS. IN MOST CASES A LOT OF PEOPLE DONT KNOW HOW STRONG THEY CAN BE UNTIL SOMETHING HAPPENS, EVEN THOUGH THEY ARE UNHAPPY THEY STILL REMAIN STRONG.
LIFE IS NOT A BED OF ROSES, SITUATION COME AND GO BUT WE MUST REMAIN STRONG AND NOT LET OUR PAST DICTATE OUR FUTURE, YOU MUST REMAIN OPTIMISTIC, BE COURAGEOUS NO MATTER WHAT!, ECONOMY IS PART OF THE SITUATION, ESPECIALLY WHEN ITS ROUGH, ONE NEEDS TO BE STRONG. YOU MUST HAVE HOPE NO MATTER THE CIRCUMSTANCE. ROUGH TIMES OR SITUATIONS WARRANT STRENGTH AND WILL, FOR BETTER LIFE AHEAD.
WHAT IT TAKES TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP
Every relationship has its own challenges and in reality, challenge is like someone trying to calculate mathematics and having a test on english,but the result of the calculation and test is what really counts. whatever the case or situation,life is full of challenges, and there are various kinds of challenges e.g challenges in marriage,parenting,life challenges, social issues.in the same way,human beings cannot occupy the same space=like a home or office.without transgressing and offering others,that is why families,work places,churches,schools and neighborhoods can become hotbeds of human conflict and suffering.
In reality humans can be messy and hurtful.we don’t really want to be that way, we don’t intend harm,but most of us have caused and received many relational injuries.We have all one way or the other insulted or injured our parents, siblings,spouse ,children and a lot of other people.
With every challenge comes forgiveness.We have to forgive and forget and that is the only way we can overcome some challenges .The ‘result for challenges and forgiveness is simply a decision to let go of our regrets and our own view or justice.so getting rid of your partner does not get rid of the problem you have ,because half of the “problem” is yours . You can walk out on your relationship, but you can’t run away from yourself, no matter how hard you try! Rather than blaming each other, couples can learn how to work as a team and coach each other through the troubled times and power struggles.
In order to avoid any kind of regrets or challenges in a relationship we must :
- Learn to forgive others
- Learn to deal with physical distance in marriage
- we must try to resolve what ever conflict we have .sleepless nights,headaches,stomach pain can all result from unresolved conflict at work
- try not to be a workaholic, so that your kids will not miss you and you will see them often
- No matter what situation you find yourself into,you must learn to love your partner.
DO PETS OR ANIMALS NEED DAYCARE OR NOT?
I HAVE SEEN CASES WHERE PEOPLE CANCEL THERE TRAVELS, ESPECIALLY IF THERE IS NOBODY TO HANDLE THEIR PETS FOR THEM , UNLESS THEY HAVE THE PRIVILEGE OF LODGING THEM IN HOTELS THAT PERMIT PETS, THEN THEY TAKE THEM ALONG. I THOUGHT TO MYSELF, IF PEOPLE CAN GO TO SO MUCH TROUBLE IN MAKING SURE THERE PETS ARE HAPPY, WHICH IS RIGHT, THEN IS IT NOT BETTER TO HAVE DAYCARE FOR PETS/ANIMALS?, WHERE THEY CAN TAKE THEM TO. THERE WILL DEFINITELY BE CHALLENGES ON HOW TO HANDLE AND MANAGE PETS FOR DAYCARE PURPOSE, FORTUNATELY CHANGING OF DIAPERS IS NOT NECESSARY BUT, MORE INTERESTING THINGS CAN BE DONE LIKE FEEDING,TAKING THEM OUT ON A WALK,EXERCISE THEM,SHOW THEM LOVE AND ATTENTION AND PEEING THEM.
WHAT IT TAKES TO BE HAPPY IN A RELATIONSHIP?
THERE ARE UPS AND DOWNS IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP,GOOD OR BAD AND FOR ALL SITUATIONS AND CONDITIONS THERE ARE ALWAYS CHALLENGES, EITHER BEFORE OR IN MARRIAGE,BUT ITS GOOD TO HAVE CHALLENGES SOMETIMES ,BECAUSE IT WILL HELP TO MODIFY THE RELATIONSHIP IN TIMES TO COME
ITS ALWAYS A GOOD THING, ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU MEET SOMEONE YOU CARE FOR AND LOVE AND WHEN YOU LOOK AT THE HAPPINESS IT BRINGS TO YOU AND THE JOY YOU FEEL EVERY TIME YOU SEE AND THINK OF THAT PERSON INVOLVED ,THINKING OF THE TIMES YOU HAVE SHARED TOGETHER AND WHEN YOU HAVE GONE OUT TO RESTAURANTS TO EAT,TIMES WHEN YOU GO OUT TO WATCH MOVIES AND TIMES WHEN YOU SHARE THINGS IN COMMON AND TIMES WHEN YOU WATCH MOVIES OR PROGRAMS TOGETHER DEPENDING ON INDIVIDUAL INTERESTS.
WE HAVE SEEN SITUATIONS WHERE BOTH PARTIES ARE ON THE LOOKOUT FOR EACH OTHER OUT OF LOVE , ESPECIALLY WHEN THE OTHER DOES NOT COME AT THE APPOINTED TIME, OR WHEN THE OTHER DOES NOT COME BACK FROM WORK ON TIME OR WHEN THE MAN IS ON THE LOOK OUT FOR HIS WOMAN WHEN SHE TAKES SO LONG TO COME BACK. THE EAGERNESS,THE EXCITEMENT FOR THE PARTNER TO COME HOME ,ITS ALWAYS EXCITING WHEN YOU REALISE THE HAPPINESS AND JOY YOU FEEL WHEN THINGS GO SMOOTHLY.
THE GOOD THING THAT NEEDS CONSIDERATION IS:
- SETTLING DISPUTES BETWEEN THE MAN AND THE WOMAN, BOTH OF THEM SHOULD TRY TO AVOID QUARREL , NO MATTER HOW ANGRY THEY ARE WITH EACH OTHER,
- TRY TO TALK OVER THE CRISIS WHEN THE TEMPER IS DOWN ,AND TRY AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE TO MAKE EACH OTHER HAPPY
- TRY TO AVOID MORE CRISIS AND BOTH PARTIES WILL BE HAPPY EVER AFTER.
DESPITE ALL CRISIS AND BENEFITS IN A RELATIONSHIP,ITS ALWAYS GOOD TO AVOID QUARREL,NAGGING,COMPLAINS AT ALL TIMES, AND ITS GOOD TO TRY TO BE HAPPY ALWAYS, NO MATTER WHAT, IT IS ALWAYS GOOD TO SETTLE WHATEVER DIFFERENCES AT ALL TIME.