how to make relationships work

Making relationships work

How do we make relationships work?, hmmm! it takes the grace of God and a lot of good notion including patience understand and perseverance and most relationship have stress and crisis, so making sacrifice for that relationship will go a along way, but it is always worth the while if properly applied, there are so many information, prompts and advice out there and sometimes they could be reliable and sometimes it is not worth accepting because they look like junk automatically means it is not a good advice and it is not worth reading because they are most times contradicting and confusing. The unfortunate thing is that most information given is one-sided and   does not apply to everybody because of the fact that different problems needs different solutions and i am being brief about what advice I can give about making a relationship work. There are some elements of truth about stability in a good relationship.  Some factors that make relationships work are:
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It

 

relationship built on trust

built on trust

  • Trust: A good, healthy and loving relationship relies on trust and faith in whomever you are dealing with which includes marriages and others, for without trust, chaos, confusion and pestilence will arise in that relationship and from a layman’s point of view, a relationship without trust is like telephone without service, which is almost like a relationship without a good foundation.  lack of trust can lead to you checking on him all the time believing in what you imagine which could be baseless. lets say he is away on a conference, you are there worried about what he or she is doing and who they are with and all kinds of thought will be flowing through your mind.  Unnecessary insecurities due to lack of trust will lead to constant quarrel and commotions at home which if looked critically could end up driving both of you apart instead of getting close. I get it, there has been a bad experience about a past relationship. but we need to forget about our past and move on or else you will have trust issue in your relationship which you need to avoid.
    The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships
relationship

relationship

  • communication : Do you communicate with your partner at all? some people have problem expressing their feelings and what they think with their friend and partner, but why? of what value is that relationship when there is no room for proper communication. Lack of communication with your partner is a big problem. It is in your best interest to tell him your opinion, then you can both solve whatever problem you may have and it will create room for understanding which is always the case with communicating to each other and not keeping quiet. improper communication might lead to survival problems in that relationship. There are some factors that needs consideration when communicating and these includes respect and talking calmly and reasonably to each other and this could be a better solution to all problems which will call for understand and therefore solution.
love

love

Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last

  • Love: There is that saying which says “love conquers them all”.  It is the major reason which brings two people together anyways and sometimes some people decide to get together and live together even if they don’t love each other and its an incredible situation and with time they may fall in love with each other and this love situation will help in solving most problems, no matter how tough and if both parties fall apart that same love that brought them together the first time will always bring them back.  For peace, understanding and love to reign in any relationship you must learn to:
  1. Understand your partner at all cost
  2. Give love honor and respect to each other
  3. Try creating moment for connection and communication
  4. Learn to share things in common
  5. Cope with situations and problems wisely and strategically no matter how tough
  6. Learn to dialogue as much as you can

 

 

 

 

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Dating Frauds That Needs To Be Watched For On The Internet

Watching Out For Dating Frauds Online

Online dating ripoff are a common occurrence, and thousands and thousands of hopeful people become victims every year to con artists who pretends sincerity and looking for a commitment and real love. Loneliness and a wish to meet special someone have resulted in a significant increase in internet dating activity. Scam artists know about this, and they prey on your weaknesses and wish to begin a relationship. Even the most advanced cons can often be identified with a little care and caution though.  All the Online frauds is all about building up trust and allowing you to believe that the scam artist wants a legitimate and real relationship. Most of the scams may go on for an extended period, and some do not attempt to get cash or some other gains initially.

dating

dating

Most of these frauds involve a small group of people and the pictures posted is not genuine.  One of the most typical Web ripoff involves someone who is extremely receptive and caring at first. As the relationship develops you might see that  the person begins having financial hardships, or an accident or problem occurs. A few of the con artists will ask for many to come visit, however when they get the cash  an emergency arises and the money gotten used for a different purpose from the original agreement.

online

online

Another common fraud involves the person asking for money to pay for an online account so you can continue to communicate. The fraud artist typically pretends to have  little or no resources as a student and states you are the one and they would like to continue the relationship but without money they cannot call you. Another fraud involves requesting money to get a visa to the USA or any other region. When the funds are gotten no visa will be gotten and nothing happens.  Try Knowing what the top cons are and how you can detect scam artists and this will help you get the results you want when you use an online dating service.
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INFIDELITY AND RELATIONSHIP

 A PROBLEM IN A RELATIONSHIP

THERE ARE ALWAYS CHALLENGES IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP AND ALL RELATIONSHIP HAS A LIFE CYCLE. ITS ALWAYS INTERESTING HOW AND WHEN YOU MEET YOUR PARTNER  AND HOW YOU FALL IN LOVE  SOME CALL IT “LOVE AT FIRST SITE AND SOME SAY ITS JUST FALLING IN LOVE. AT THE BEGINNING OF A RELATIONSHIP, YOU FELL IN LOVE WITH YOUR SPOUSE, YOU APPRECIATED THEIR PHONE CALLS,WANTED THEIR TOUCH,LIKE THEIR TALK AND ADVICE AND YOU ALWAYS WANT TO LISTEN TO THEM AT ALL TIMES AND YOU ARE ALWAYS ON THE LOOKOUT FOR THEM WHEN THEY ARE NOT YET AT HOME WHEN YOU ARE THERE.

relationship and infidelity

infidelity and relationship

WAS FALLING IN LOVE WITH YOUR PARTNER REALLY A BIG DEAL?, THE TRUTH IS ,IT WAS A SPONTANEOUS EXPERIENCE WHICH BLEW YOU AWAY. YOU DID NOT HAVE TO GO THROUGH ANY PROCESS BUT SEEING IT HAPPEN NATURALLY. THAT’S WHY IT IS CALLED “FALLING” IN LOVE – BECAUSE ITS HAPPENING. MOST PEOPLE IN LOVE ALWAYS SAY “I WAS SWEPT OFF MY FEET.” THINK ABOUT WHAT THAT EXPRESSION ENTAILS. IT INDICATES THAT YOU WERE JUST STANDING THERE ;DOING NOTHING,AND THEN SOMETHING CAME ALONG AND HAPPENED TO YOU.

AFTER A FEW YEARS OF MARRIAGE, THE EUPHORIA OF LOVE FADES AND CRISIS IN A RELATIONSHIP ARISES, THIS IS THE NATURAL CYCLE OF EVERY REALTIONSHIP.GRADUALLY BUT SURELY,PHONE CALLS BECOME A PROBLEM,TOUCH SOMETIMES IS NOT WELCOME AND YOUR SPOUSE’S ATTITUDE INSTEAD OF BEING CUTE AND EXCITING AS IT USED TO BE ,DRIVE YOU NUTS. THE SYMPTOMS OF THIS STAGE VARY WITH ALL RELATIONSHIP, LOOKING AT YOUR MARRIAGE ,YOU WILL REALISE A GREAT DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE INITIAL STAGE OF FALLING IN LOVE AND A MUCH DULLER OR EVEN ANGRY SUBSEQUENT STAGE.

AT THIS STAGE ,YOU AND/ OR YOUR SPOUSE MIGHT START ASKING THE QUESTION, WHAT MADE ME TO MARRY THIS PERSON?, WAS THIS MARRIAGE MEANT TO BE?, DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? WHILE THIS QUESTIONS ARE GOING THROUGH YOUR MIND,YOU REFLECT ON FANTASY OF THE LOVE YOU ONCE HAD ,WHEN BOTH OF YOU WERE IN THE “GARDEN OF EDEN” FILLED WITH LOVE AND PASSION. SOME PEOPLE BEGIN TO DESIRE THAT PREVIOUS EXPERIENCE THEY HAD WITH SOMEONE ELSE.THIS IS WHERE THE “BOMB” OF DESTRUCTION SETS IN(MARRIAGES BREAKDOWN). SOME BLAME THEIR SPOUSE FOR THEIR UNHAPPINESS AND START LOOKING OUTSIDE THEIR MARRIAGE FOR FULFILLMENT, THEREBY GIVING ROOM TO INFIDELITY.

infidelity and relationship

TALKING ABOUT EXTRAMARITAL FULFILLMENT,IT COMES IN DIFFERENT SHAPES,SIZES AND DIMENSIONS. INFIDELITY IS THE MOST OBVIOUS. SOME PEOPLE TAKE SOLACE IN WORK, CHURCH, A HOBBY,  FRIENDSHIP, EXCESSIVE TV AND MOVIES OR ABUSIVE SUBSTANCES. MY QUESTION IS ,WHAT IS THE ANSWER TO THIS DILEMA?, THE ANSWER DOES NOT LIE OUTSIDE YOUR MARRIAGE. IT LIES WITHIN IT. I AM NOT SAYING YOU COULD NOT FALL IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE ELSE,YOU COULD ITS YOUR CHOICE. TEMPORARILY YOU’D BE COMFORTABLE AGAIN, BUT IN THE LONG RUN YOU WILL BE WEARING THE OLD SHOES AGAIN IN A FEW YEARS TO COME, THEREBY FINDING YOURSELF TO BE IN SQUARE “0” OR “1” .

 THE KEY TO SUCCESS IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT’S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. SUSTAINING LOVE IS NOT AN EASY EXPERIENCE ,THERE ARE LOTS OF CHALLENGES TO IT. IT’LL NEVER JUST HAPPEN TO YOU. YOU CAN’T “FIND” LASTING LOVE .YOU HAVE TO “MAKE” YOUR LOVE LAST , DAY IN AND DAY OUT. THAT IS WHY WE HAVE THE EXPRESSION “THE LABOUR OF LOVE”  “IT TAKES TIME , EFFORT, DETERMINATION, PERSEVERANCE, DEDICATION AND ENERGY. AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, IT TAKES WISDOM. YOU NEED TO KNOW WHAT TO DO TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK.
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IS IT BETTER TO MARRY FOR LOVE OR MONEY?

  • LOVE OR FANTASY,MONEY OR LOVE?

MARRIAGE IS  A VERY CRUCIAL ISSUE ,BUT INTERESTING TO DISCUSS, I WAS SOMEWHERE WITH A GROUP OF FRIENDS AS USUAL AND ONE OF US CAME UP WITH A QUESTION ABOUT LOVE AND MONEY AND SOMEONE SAID WHAT ABOUT IT?, AND HE ASKED IF IT WAS GOOD TO MARRY FOR LOVE OR MONEY?,SOME TOPIC FOR DISCUSSION AS USUAL AND HE JUST SAID WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?,SOME SAID MARRYING FOR MONEY IS THE BEST AND SOME SAID  MARRYING FOR LOVE WAS THE BEST AND THE LAST PERSON SAID MARRYING FOR BOTH IS  NECESSARY.

money and love which one is best

marriage in love and money makes life good

EVERYONE WANTS SECURITY OF LIFE ESPECIALLY IN MARRIAGE, PREVIOUSLY IT WAS ASSUMED THAT PEOPLE SHOULD MARRY FOR THE FEELINGS THAT THEY HAVE FOR EACH OTHER,ON THE OTHER HAND MARRYING FOR MONEY IS FOR SECURITY IN A RELATIONSHIP, BUT I WOULD RATHER SAY, IT HAS TO BE  BALANCED.MARRYING SOLELY FOR LOVE WONT FEED YOUR FAMILY,WHILE MARRYING SOLELY FOR MONEY WONT SATISFY YOUR LIFE IN THE LONG RUN.

love and money

MANY RELATIONSHIP HAVE PROBLEM DUE TO FINANCIAL ISSUES AND ISSUES RELATING TO MONEY CAN DESTROY LOVE OVERTIME,ON THE OTHER HAND ,WITHOUT LOVE AND ROMANCE ,MARRIAGE LIFE WILL BECOME BORING AND  DRY AND MAY LEAD TO DISTORTION IN INTIMACY.IN MANY CASES IN THE PRESENT AGE, MANY YOUNG GIRLS WOULD PREFER A RELATIONSHIP THAT GOES WITH MONEY, BECAUSE  IT IS BELIEVED THAT MARRIAGE WITH MONEY IS A SECURITY OF LIFE FOR THEM, WHICH MAKES SOME PEOPLE CALL SOME GIRLS “GOLD DIGGERS” BUT IN TRUTH NO ONE EVER SAYS A MAN IS A “BEAUTY-DIGGER” BECAUSE HE WANTS A BEAUTIFUL GIRL, SO I WOULD RATHER SAY,MONEY AND LOVE IS IMPORTANT IN A RELATIONSHIP, BECAUSE THEY CANT DO WITHOUT EACH OTHER . WHAT DO YOU THINK?