Explain Your Biggest Regrets

What Is Your Biggest Regret

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regret

We all have regrets one way or the other during the cause of our lives, there are different kinds of regrets such as regret about loosing loved ones who were so  dear to us, regret about loosing contacts with important friends and school mates, regret about not doing the right thing at the right time, regret about doing the right thing at the wrong time, regret about not fulfilling our life goals and aspirations, regret about our achievements so far, regret about not going after what we want especially when we had it at our finger tips, regrets about our marriage, regret about associating with the wrong friends and acquaintances, regret about not being able to differentiate between a good friend and a bad one,regret about not setting our goals as we should and so on, there are so many things that can bring about regrets but the good thing is that, once we realize where we defaulted we can always correct our selves, This makes us strong and moving on would not be a problem and it also gives room to caution from unnecessary regrets in the future.

my regrets

A friend of mine was telling me of how much regret he had about not being able to show appreciation to his parents for how they raised him, because they are no more, one way or the other we do have people that we love and we hope and assume that they will always be in our lives, but due to unforeseen circumstances beyond us they are there no more or we lose contact with them because we do not realize how valuable they are to us then. many a time we do not know the value of what we have and how precious it is until we lose it, especially if we were in a sweet and loving relationship such as marriage and other kinds of relationship,  Due to our unconsciousness at the time of our relationship, we refuse to recognize its value until after it sleeps out of our hands. some time we regret not paying attention to what our parents thought us as kids and teenagers, but latter realized its value as adults. somebody was talking about going to a place where he would have achieved a lot and fulfill his dreams, but did not go after it when it was necessary to do so.

regrets

Errors and mistakes always gives room for corrections and is always a motivator for better life which simple means what ever mistake we did in the past after realization can bring about our success and achievements by learning from the past. because of our regrets from the past we can  always learn from it by:

1. Identifying and checking our weaknesses

2. Using our mistakes as a yardstick for teaching ourselves and for correction

3. Using the privilege as a way of adaptation

4. Trying to focus and improve on whatever we are doing

5. Trying to figure out what we need to appreciate even in times of crisis

6. Trying to improve and check our relationships

7. Accepting blames and moving on

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IS IT ALWAYS BETTER TO KNOW THE TRUTH, EVEN WHEN IT HURTS?

 KNOWING THE TRUTH DESPITE ITS PAIN

THE TRUTH IS AN INSTRUMENT OF PEACE AND FREEDOM WHICH GIVES YOU PEACE OF MIND AND HAPPINESS.  NOT KNOWING THE TRUTH AND NOT BEING TRUTHFUL IS LIKE JACK AND JILL CLIMBING UP THE HILL TO FETCH A PAIL OF WATER AND JACK FALLING DOWN AND BREAKING HIS CROWN AND CAME TUMBLING AFTER, WHICH SIMPLY MEANS LYING HAS CONSEQUENCES AND A LIE OF 10 YEARS WILL BE OVERCOME BY TRUTH ONE DAY.  SOMETIMES WE FIND IT DIFFICULT TELLING THE TRUTH ESPECIALLY TO OUR LOVED ONES BECAUSE OF THE SITUATION THAT SURROUNDS IT, BUT IN REALITY IT IS MORE PAINFUL WHEN WE REFUSE TO SHARE WHAT WE HAVE GONE THROUGH OR WHAT WE ARE EXPERIENCING WITH OUR LOVED ONES BY TELLING THEM THE TRUTH BECAUSE WE DONT WANT TO HURT THEM, BUT IT IS BETTER TO TELL THE TRUTH AND LET THE DEVIL BE ASHAMED.

truth has no agenda

truth has no agenda

SOMETIMES BECAUSE WE DONT WANT TO HURT OUR PARTNERS, FRIENDS AND ACQUAINTANCES FEELINGS WE REFUSE TO TELL THEM THE TRUTH , BUT TELLING THE TRUTH IS LIKE SHOWING RESPECT, LOVE, CARE AND LETTING YOUR PARTNER KNOW YOU HAVE FEELINGS AND UNDERSTANDING FOR THEM AND WANT THEM TO BE PART OF WHAT YOU ARE EXPERIENCING. SOMETIMES TELLING THE TRUTH CAN SAVE, BECAUSE ADVICE THAT WILL SOLVE THAT PROBLEM MIGHT SHOW UP DURING YOUR DISCUSSION.  TRUTH IS BITTER BUT BETTER THAN LIES WHICH WILL CATCH UP ON YOU EVENTUALLY.  BEING UNTRUTHFUL CAN BREAK A PEACEFUL AND LOVING RELATIONSHIP.  TELLING THE TRUTH ACTUALLY BRINGS SOLUTION AND UNDERSTANDING AND LIFE WILL CONTINUE AND HAPPINESS WILL SET IN ONCE THE TRUTH IS REVEALED EVEN THOUGH IT HURTS.

truth

truth and its effect

SOMETIMES KNOWING THE TRUTH CAN BE VERY UNPLEASANT, BUT KNOWING IT FROM SOMEONE YOU LOVE AND CARE FOR AND FROM CLOSE ACQUAINTANCES COULD SIMPLY MEAN THEY HAVE RESPECT FOR YOU AND IT WILL BUILD TRUST EVENTUALLY.  ALTHOUGH THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO THINK TELLING THE TRUTH MIGHT HURT OTHERS FEELINGS AND BECAUSE OF THIS ,THEY WILL RATHER NOT SAY IT.  IT IS BETTER TO KNOW THE TRUTH AND IMPROVE THAN BEING IGNORANT AND AWAY FROM REALITY AND NOT BEING ABLE TO KNOW WHERE YOU HAVE GONE WRONG. BY PROLONGING A LIE MIGHT LEAD TO CONTINUOUS SUFFERING WITHOUT SOLUTION FOR EXAMPLE: A SPOUSE SUFFERING FROM AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE, MIGHT FACE A LOT OF HEART TRAUMA BY NOT TELLING THEIR PARTNER HOW THEY FEEL, FORGETTING THAT NOT TELLING THEM THE TRUTH MIGHT LEAD TO CONTINUOUS PAIN AND BEING HURT.  UNTIL HE OR SHE FINDS OUT THE TRUTH THERE CAN NEVER BE A SOLUTION.

truth and its effect

truth and its value

THERE IS ALWAYS A SAYING THAT THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE, SO IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO KNOW THE TRUTH EVEN IF IT HURTS WHICH IS MY OPINION. THE QUESTION IS : IS IT ALWAYS BETTER TO KNOW THE TRUTH, EVEN IF IT HURTS, WHAT DO YOU THINK?
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