The World Of Loneliness

Loneliness and Its Effects

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 Loneliness has always been a painful and disturbing situation whereby you don’t feel connected to others.  Humans need to make new friends and acquaintances constantly, which leads to the development of partnerships and friendships. Loneliness is a sign that a basic need, like establishing friendships or developing a special connection, is not met.

If you are lonely, you sometimes need warmth, understanding, and extended to share your feelings and thoughts with others. Loneliness does not necessarily mean being alone. For instance, you can feel lonely when you are in a class with twenty other students, in the middle of a party, at a sports event with hundreds of screaming spectators, or surrounded by family.

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Loneliness can mean:

  • Feeling that you are unacceptable, unloved by those around you, not worthwhile, even if others don’t share these perceptions; feeling alienated from your surroundings: lacking the attachments you had in the past. Feeling that there is no one to share your concerns and experience.
  • Feeling that you are alone and have no other choice. You may find it challenging to make friends or go beyond mere acquaintances. Loneliness to me means no genuine companionship
  • There is no one close enough to touch and willing to laugh when I make a stupid joke so I can think I’m funny.
  • Loneliness means eating lots of meals alone. One fork hitting one plate every night for several years is a very lonely sound, devastating, and this ruins the best of culinary creations when you match it with a good long stare at the wall in front of you.
  • The feeling that you are not wanted. Sometimes you want to be among other people, but you have a sense that keeps you apart and makes you feel unwelcome.
  • It sometimes means being afraid that you will never develop whatever it is that lets other people experience how you think or share your ideas or feelings with others, so they can gain or learn from your little experience alone.
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The best we can do when we feel lonely is to share our feelings and emotions with others.  Practical advice and good direction on the right part could be beneficial because sometimes you need to let others know your feelings or try to get at least one person you can share your mind and thoughts with, or else it might get you into trouble. 

The reason is that loneliness can sometimes lead to depression and uncertainty about yourself, life, and the world, so we should avoid being lonely no matter what we go through.

Civilization has made things easy now. If you feel so lonely, try joining social media, making friends, sharing an opinion, and ideas. Be active, and sometimes solutions to your problems could come from there. You might eventually not feel lonely again.

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REACTING OVER PAST EXPERIENCES OF LIFE

THE THOUGHTS OF THINKING ABOUT THE PAST AND STILL HOLDING UNTO IT AND REACTING WITH IT

Being humans that we are , we all do have history and experiences from the past right from when we were born till now, we all do have different phases to life and the circumstances that call for this are of different kinds but, one way or the other we do have our different life experiences and some are good and wonderful, some are mild and some are very bad, that its difficult to forget and some of us hold unto this past experiences and wallow in them and we allow it to affect the present life in which we live in, thereby holding grudges with the past. Experience as they say, is a good and probably the best teacher, it is a special cane which makes you learn and use the incident that brought about that experience as a tool for caution and a tool for bringing awareness to others, for them to know what life is all about and som people express this experiences in different ways through movies,music,comedy and other means of communications.

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Reacting with experiences

Life is full of challenges and sometimes its good to have them because they are lessons of life which carry us along, but some people hold unto this and refuse to let go and use it as a yardstick to vindicate other people who come across their part, especially someone who has been in a very bad relationship and having come out of it, most times have the thought that all are bad, just like some women will say men are bad because of what she went through in her last or previous  relationships, forgetting that everybody is not and can never be the same, for the fact that you had bad experience with the previous person is not a criteria for same experience with your new acquaintance the reason being that our upbringing, orientation, background and ways we were individually brought up has never been and will never be the same which brings about changes in people and character differences.

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Whatever life has presented in the past either good or bad should never be a yardstick for reaction towards the present  negatively or towards whomever we come across in the future, for life has to continue. we should use our experiences as a lesson or means of caution for future occurrences. we should focus on the present  and the future  and hope for better life and not keep feeling bad about what happened months and  years ago and letting it affect our new friends and acquaintances or whomever we are dealing with.

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