The world Of Loneliness

 

Loneliness and Its Effects

lonely

lonely

 Loneliness has always been a painful and disturbing situation whereby you don’t feel connected to others and you feel the important needs in your life are not being met and you feel some emptiness.  We as humans always need acquaintance and this brings about creation of relationships and friendship so, loneliness is a signal that an important basic need is not being met such as the need to develop a circle of friends or a special relationship. People need people. If you are lonely, you sometimes feel the need for warmth, understanding, and long to share your feelings and thoughts with others. Loneliness does not necessarily mean being alone. For instance, you can feel lonely when you are in a class with twenty other students, in the middle of a party, at a sports event with hundreds of screaming spectators, or surrounded by family.

loneliness

loneliness

 

Loneliness can mean:

  • Feeling that you are unacceptable, unloved by those around you, not worthwhile, even if others don’t share these perceptions; feeling alienated from your surroundings: lacking the attachments that you had in the past… feeling that there is no one with whom to share your personal concerns and experiences…
  • Feeling that you are alone and have no other choice. You may find it difficult to make friends or go beyond mere acquaintance… Loneliness to me means no real companionship
  • There is no one close enough to touch and willing to laugh when I make a stupid joke so I can think I’m funny.
  • Loneliness means eating lots of meals alone. One fork hitting one plate every night for several years is a very desolate sound, devastating and this ruins the best of culinary creations when you match it with a good long stare at the wall in front of you.
  • Feeling that you are not wanted, sometimes you want to associate with others but you have this feeling which draw you back and makes you feel unwanted by others.
  • It sometimes means being very afraid that you will never develop whatever it is that lets other people experience how you feel or share your ideas or feelings with other people, so they can gain or learn from your little experience

    alone

    alone

The best we can do when we feel lonely is to try to share our feelings and emotions with others.  Reasonable advice and good direction on the right part could be very useful because sometimes if you do not let others know your feelings or try to get at least one person you can share your mind and thoughts with, then you might get into trouble, because loneliness sometimes can lead to a lot of things like depression and uncertainty about yourself, life and the world in general, so no matter what we are going through we should avoid being lonely and civilization has made things easy now.  If you feel so lonely try joining a social media, make friends and share opinion, ideas, be active and sometimes solution to your problems could come from there and you might eventually not feel lonely again.

 

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REACTING OVER PAST EXPERIENCES OF LIFE

THE THOUGHTS OF THINKING ABOUT THE PAST AND STILL HOLDING UNTO IT AND REACTING WITH IT

Being humans that we are , we all do have history and experiences from the past right from when we were born till now, we all do have different phases to life and the circumstances that call for this are of different kinds but, one way or the other we do have our different life experiences and some are good and wonderful, some are mild and some are very bad, that its difficult to forget and some of us hold unto this past experiences and wallow in them and we allow it to affect the present life in which we live in, thereby holding grudges with the past. Experience as they say, is a good and probably the best teacher, it is a special cane which makes you learn and use the incident that brought about that experience as a tool for caution and a tool for bringing awareness to others, for them to know what life is all about and som people express this experiences in different ways through movies,music,comedy and other means of communications.

reacting with experience
Reacting with experiences

Life is full of challenges and sometimes its good to have them because they are lessons of life which carry us along, but some people hold unto this and refuse to let go and use it as a yardstick to vindicate other people who come across their part, especially someone who has been in a very bad relationship and having come out of it, most times have the thought that all are bad, just like some women will say men are bad because of what she went through in her last or previous  relationships, forgetting that everybody is not and can never be the same, for the fact that you had bad experience with the previous person is not a criteria for same experience with your new acquaintance the reason being that our upbringing, orientation, background and ways we were individually brought up has never been and will never be the same which brings about changes in people and character differences.

Out of body experience

Whatever life has presented in the past either good or bad should never be a yardstick for reaction towards the present  negatively or towards whomever we come across in the future, for life has to continue. we should use our experiences as a lesson or means of caution for future occurrences. we should focus on the present  and the future  and hope for better life and not keep feeling bad about what happened months and  years ago and letting it affect our new friends and acquaintances or whomever we are dealing with.

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